5 Common Misconceptions About People Who Stay Home For College/Commute

Hi, everyone! My name is Marissa Filletti. I’m a sophomore here at UC and a commuter. Hopefully you will gain some wisdom from reading my rants and have some fun checking out the places I suggest for you around Utica! Welcome to my stomping grounds 🙂

Deciding where to go to college is a stressful time for high school grads, as the fear of the unknown lurks over every choice they make. Everyone has an idea in their head about what college will be like. Some people have all the answers (think they have all the answers). But, in the end, everyone makes the decision to go the place that will be of most value to them.

I chose Utica College. Yes, after visiting 10 different colleges throughout the state and applying to all of them, I picked the one 10 minutes down the road from my house. This was a complete shock. Everyone in my family thought I was long gone. I am a commuter. I live at home. I know, shockingly I opted for my queen-sized bed and home-cooked meals over living in North or South and eating the cafe food.

Many of my friends went away, and I think that they, like many others, have a completely false perception of what it’s like to be a commuter. So this one is for you fellow stay-at-homers, the top five things that people think they know about us:

1. We were too “scared” to leave home

I can’t speak for everyone, but I am super close with my family. Was I scared to leave home? Absolutely NOT. But I wasn’t trying my hardest to get away either. A lot of other traits I was looking for in a college seemed more important than my living arrangements. Like, who gave me the best scholarships and made college the most affordable for me.

2. It was “easier” for us to adjust to the college life

“LOL “is what came to mind when one of my friends first said this to me… LOL. No, we are not living in a new place; agreed. No, we aren’t somewhere where we don’t know anybody; agreed. BUT, people that live on campus and with a roommate are all in that same, scary, adjusting to college situation together. Us commuters on the other hand are going to class, probably still working, and we have to try 10x as hard to get involved on campus and make friends. It is not an easy thing to do.

3. It’s just like high school

When I started at UC, all of my friends that went away were under this delusion that I just went to class and went home, just like high school, as if nothing has changed in my life whatsoever. That is not the case. Last year I was on campus constantly; doing homework in the library or in the lounge, eating at Pio or going to club meetings. It’s all about what you make of it and how much you apply yourself.

4.  We only want to be friends with other commuters

No offense to the “Commuter Club” on campus (or my commuter friends because ily), but I think all commuters could relate when I say that we don’t only want to be friends with each other. If anything, we wish there was a less awkward way to hang out in the dorm lounges or take part in dorm activities to help us meet people.

5. We miss out on the “full college experience”

I, for one, think this is completely untrue. We might not get exactly the same experience that people that live on campus get, but we get a different kind of unique experience that can still be awesome. Like I said before, it’s all what you make of it and how much you apply yourself. When I started off, I joined a couple of clubs, got a job on campus, and went out on the weekends. It’s not as easy for us, but we can still make a lot of friends and have a blast; it takes a little more time and effort.

My “Dorm Room”

My “Roomie”
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My “Cafe”
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One Reply to “5 Common Misconceptions About People Who Stay Home For College/Commute”

  1. I am a freshman at SUNY Poly and thought I needed the “college experience” so I decided to live on campus when I live in less than 15 minutes away. After living on campus for less than a semester I realized that it wasn’t all that it was cooked up to be and that it isn’t worth the $12,000 a year (room board and meal plan). Though I may not have much interaction with my family I’m sure going to enjoy having my bed and a room to myself.

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