Being a young adult in college means trying to figure out who the heck you are, inside and out. You’re trying to find a personal style and nail down what makes you, you. Plus, you’re trying desperately to distance yourself from the frizzy-haired, braces-wearing awkward teen you were in high school. That means you’re experimenting with new choices, whether it be clothes, make-up, fitness, or hair.
When I wanted to cut my hair, someone very close to me vehemently urged me against it, telling me quite frankly how ugly and unfeminine I would look if I did. It had nothing to do with how the actual cut would look on me, but was merely because the person telling me this thought all females look bad with short hair.
Spoiler alert: I cut it anyway and received more compliments on my hair than I have in my entire life. I had a new found confidence and freedom, a sophisticated look that better suited my personality.
The initial skeptic still wasn’t happy, and I of course encountered others opposed to the look. They couldn’t believe I chopped off my “beautiful long hair,” and seemed personally offended by the choice, like how dare I make a decision about my appearance without their approval? The nerve I had to choose short hair when others would’ve killed for my long hair.
Here’s the deal with all the hair haters: it’s none of anyone’s business what I, or anyone else, decides to do with their hair. Short hair might not be your favorite thing, but that doesn’t mean somebody with a shorter cut is any less beautiful for choosing it. And maybe you wouldn’t want long hair that dangles all the way down to your butt, but some people do, and they like it that way.
There’s no need to judge someone on the street because they dyed their hair a hundred hues of pink, purple, and green. People are so quick to cry, “How unprofessional!” Or “What was he/she thinking?” I’ll tell you what they were thinking: this is something I want to do, and I’m going to do it for me. Their personality is not suddenly less mature or professional because their hair color changed. I mean, think about that for a second. Some people just love to experiment, and maybe those against it are just envious that they don’t have the guts to do so too.
On a similar note, if somebody wants to do absolutely nothing with their hair for their entire life, that’s totally cool too. There’s no law that says you have to constantly chop and color according to the latest trend.
We’re in 2014 now, and an ultra-short cut doesn’t have to be any less feminine than long locks on a chick; nor does flowing hair on a guy need to be less manly than a buzz cut. Sometimes, the other extreme fits your lifestyle better, and that’s what your choice should be about, not gender norms. I workout and sweat everyday, so short hair’s a breeze for me, plus it suits the shape of my face. Another girl might prefer long hair she can constantly style differently.
Guys, it’s hair. It grows, it changes, and mostly, it just hangs there. Do what you want with it, whatever makes you feel beautiful, and don’t let anyone else make you feel any less so.