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Why It’s Okay To Be Selfish in College

Nov 21, 2014 | Author: Allison Acquaviva
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“I’m so busy. I’m so stressed out.”

If I had a penny for every time I thought or said that, I would have enough money to take that Disney (or Hawaiian) vacation that I so desperately need!

Between classes, homework, writing for The Tangerine, blogging, and other obligations, I sometimes feel as if my world is going to cave in! Yikes!

I never realized how bad my stress level was until I went to my doctor and she pointed it out to me. Oy! This year, my stress level has been at an all time high and I found myself adding MORE stress to combat the other stress. Silly right? I threw myself into everything & anything that I could, and seriously compromised my health because of it. I guess it’s not normal to be stressed, anxious, tired and irritable all the time. Who knew?!

My experience with stress and anxiety in college really inspired me to write this post. It got me thinking about how the world and society holds such high expectations for us. The world forces us to put our own health on the back burner. We are always pressured to do more, work more, BE more. We think that adding more stuff to our ever-growing mountain of stress will distract us. Wrong.  

It’s NOT natural!

Don’t get me wrong, it’s a wonderful thing to be goal oriented and have fantastic work ethic – in fact, employers love that! But, there’s something very wrong with living by a weekly planner, living on caffeine, and doing your best work under pressure.

Here’s the thing: We’ve conditioned ourselves for stress. We fear that we would be “selfish” for taking a mental health day. Ultimately, we ignore our own happiness and health, and squeeze in something else into our tight little schedules.

Now that the end of the semester is near, are you finding yourself completely overwhelmed? Do you say yes to multiple things that you have no time for? Is your brain on overload? I could sum this up with one piece of advice: SLOW DOWN! But, that wouldn’t be helpful would it? No. So, here’s some tips on how to be more less stressed, less anxious, happier & healthier.

1) Look at how you begin your day: We have all heard our mother’s say these famous words: “Eat your breakfast. It’s the most important meal of the day.”  Mother truly knows best! Do you skip breakfast because you’re in such a rush? Stop. That’s self punishing. Keep some ready-to-go food in the kitchen. Fruit, bagels, muffins, etc, are better than nothing. Feed your body & brain.

2) Unlearn self punishment and embrace self-love: Often we get so caught up in our work and goals that we punish ourselves for not reaching them, or for simply making mistakes along the way. We look at ourselves as failures if we didn’t achieve that A we worked so hard for. We need to learn to cut ourselves a break. Be low maintenance and accept that you’re human.

3) Find relaxation techniques: When stress begins to consume me, I try to do something for myself that will make my soul happy. That includes writing in my journal, playing with my dog, drinking hot tea, or even just listening to music. Relaxation is a must. Overwhelmed with your responsibilities? Take small breaks, do some yoga, do a little self pampering, eat healthy snacks, or even wear your favorite color to class.

Believe it or not, little things like that can make a world of difference to your mood and mind. Taking care of ourselves is not selfish. It’s a priority. To be successful we need to be healthy and relaxed.

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Winter Is Coming

Nov 20, 2014 | Author: Gregory Spears

With the weather changing, students on campus have already talked amongst each other about what boots they will purchase and how big their coats will be this winter. The reason for this cause it seems that before every morning class during the spring semester, Utica College students pray that their morning classes will be cancelled or at least rescheduled for a different time. It has been said that it doesn’t matter if we got hit with 9 feet of snow like Buffalo did this week, Utica College still will not cancel classes. Maybe night classes but morning classes will still be in session. Students have complained about this for some time now. The wind chill could be in the negatives and we would still get an email telling students to bundle up! Why is that? Students should take that into consideration that the school is very focused on our schounnamedlastics and don’t want to cancel classes unless the winter weather is brutal. If the professors can make it to class in their commutes, then we can still make that five-minute walk to class. Winter is coming and Utica College students should start preparing for it right now.

Thanksgiving is Approaching and I’m excited!

Nov 20, 2014 | Author: Brittany Sierra

Thanksgiving is a great time to be around family and friends but it’s especially a really great time to give thanks for all of the blessings that you have. I personally can not wait for Thanksgiving. I have not seen my family in 3 months so this will be a good one! I’m excited to finally eat a home cooked meal! But, I would like to remind everyone that there are people out there that will not have anything to eat, to go or even have family to be with. Remember when saying your prayers before your big meal to mention those people who will not be so lucky this year. :(

Did You Take Back Your Prom?

Nov 20, 2014 | Author: Courtney Hryniowski

Friday, Nov. 14 was Take Back Your Prom hosted by Utica College’s Gay/Straight Alliance and Utica College’s Programming Board. It was from 8 p.m. to 12 a.m. at Valentino’s Banquet Hall in New Hartford. We were able to provide our guests with a variety of finger foods, a candy bar, photo booth, mock prom photos, souvenirs, and cash bar with an open bar special!

We had over 240 people in attendance, which was spectacular! The dance floor was packed and there was a line for the photo booth from the beginning to the end of the event. I am really happy to be a part of an organization that hosted such a successful event!

GSA and UCPB really wanted to have this event for the individuals who did not enjoy their prom. This gave them the opportunity for a redo! Some individuals didn’t like their prom maybe because of something that happened, the lack of entertainment, food wasn’t good or they were not able to go with the person that they really wanted to, especially members of the LGBT community.

In high school, I attended several proms but there was something so much more exciting about this one. I think it was because, in high school, there is so much more to worry about… just normal high school things such as who is wearing what, who is getting a limo or a party bus, etc. This prom gave me the opportunity to get dressed up (which I LOVE to do) and enjoy a carefree night of food, dancing, and photos with my close friends here at Utica College.

Here are some of my favorite pictures from the night:

My best friend Angela Malaspina (on the left & right) and one of my residents Nick Boles (center)!

My best friend Angela Malaspina (on the left & right) and one of my residents Nick Boles (center)!

My good friends Ronnie and James!

My good friends Ronnie and James!

Being silly with George Archundia & Angela Malaspina!

Being silly with George Archundia & Angela Malaspina!

The dance floor was packed!

The dance floor was packed!

Fellow GSA members, George Archundia (left) and  Jesse Haggerty (right)!

Fellow GSA members, George Archundia (left) and Jesse Haggerty (right)!

Friends & I having a blast in the photo booth! :)

Friends & I having a blast in the photo booth! :)

Preparing for Exams

Nov 19, 2014 | Author: Benjamin Mehic


Preparing for exams is probably the most stressful part of being a college student. Even if you attend class regularly, do well on quizzes and homework, it’s still hard to feel prepared.

Here are a few ways to prepare for an exam so that you feel confident during test day:

Review class material regularly

Cramming study time in the day before an exam is probably the worst way to review class material. Instead of putting an unnecessary amount of pressure on yourself the day before the exam, just take the time to review class material every day leading up to an exam.

If you review the material, chances are you’ll follow along during lectures, and the material will become a lot easier to learn and remember. So, once exam day does come, everything will look familiar, and you’ll feel prepared to ace the exam.

It might seem like extra work, but reviewing material on a regular basis is necessary.

The truth is that even in your last year of college, the announcement of a test, exam, final, or quiz (the most jarring of all), is disconcerting for slackers and committed students alike. If a test is looming in your future, whether it is two weeks or two hours before, you can take control of the outcome by using the right study strategies. –via

Take advantage of resources

Utica College has plenty of resources available for you to feel prepared on exam day. If you’re struggling with math, make an appointment at the Math and Science Center. The same could apply for an upcoming essay or English exam.

Don’t wait until last minute, though, as it could be too late for you to find help. If you feel like you’re going to have trouble with a specific topic, get it resolved right away. The sooner you get prepared, the better.

Final exams are right around the corner. Taking advantage of the helpful resources is key if you’re having trouble.

The End is Near…

Nov 19, 2014 | Author: Elaine Paravati

This time of year can be hectic for many reasons. With Thanksgiving break less than a week away and the holidays around the corner, family plans can definitely start to fill up your time. But before you can enjoy the time off, there are final exams, term papers, group projects, and presentations that need to be done. Add in all of the last-minute prepping to leave the residence halls for winter break, and you’re bound to be a little overwhelmed!

While the last few weeks of the semester are always a little crazy, I find these things really help me stay focused and power through the end of the year:

  • Make sure you’re getting enough sleep. With a million homework assignments to complete, sleep is usually the last priority- but you will be way more efficient with your work if you take a nap or head to bed a little earlier. Turn off your iPhone and sleep already!
  • Write a final exam checklist. List each class you are taking, the day and time of the final, and all of the assignments and tests due before then. It feels great to check things off your list and know that you’re just a few papers away from winter break!
  • Read over Thanksgiving break! Use the days you have off from classes to spend time with family and friends, and definitely relax a little. But don’t completely disconnect from school, or else you’ll be in shock when you return to campus and only have 6 class days before finals! Catch up on your textbook reading over break, and even get ahead if you can, so that you are ready to crush your finals when you come back.
  • Listen to festive music. When I shower in the morning, I listen to Christmas music. It reminds me of all of the fun I will be having with my family in a few short weeks, and keeps me optimistic! Watch a holiday classic on TV during your study break or listen to music that makes you happy. It will serve as encouragement for you to keep working hard in order to make it to the holidays.
  • Drink lots of water or tea. Stay hydrated and stay warm with a nice thermos of herbal tea. It will help your immune system fight off winter bugs and will help you stay awake during study sessions.
  • Keep it in perspective. As I have written about many times before, the importance of keeping a positive outlook is imperative to success. Remember how fortunate you are to have the opportunity to be in school, and remind yourself of all of the good things in your life. When times get tough, think of all of the things you have to be grateful for, and it’s likely your stressors will seem less important after all.

Good luck with the end of the semester. You can do it!

National Society of Leadership and Success

Nov 19, 2014 | Author: Tessa Lamper

About a month ago, I received an email that read…

“Dear Tessa,

Congratulations!  In approximately one week, via US Postal Mail, we will send you a formal invitation to join the Utica College chapter of The National Society of Leadership and Success, Sigma Alpha Pi…”IMG_1215

I was a bit confused, as were many of my peers that also received the invitation. I decided to go to the first informational meeting about Sigma Alpha Pi and learned a lot about the organization…including the fact that this is the first time it is has become recognized at Utica College. Now that it is recognized at Utica College, I am sure many other students are curious about it, so I thought I would inform you guys because it is a great opportunity and we will be hosting events in the future!

The Society is invitation only and “gives you access to leadership certification that is a valuable addition to your professional resume and a life changing personal development tool” (Society Leadership). The organization is nationally recognized and is based off of academic accomplishment and leadership. To be inducted you must be invited by your chapter advisor (Bethany A. Piraino at Utica College) and fill out the online application. This will make you a pre-inducted member and from there you must complete 12 hours of leadership training. Then you will be inducted through a ceremony. Some benefits of NSLS are

improved self-esteem, peer leadership skills, motivation and drive, paradigms that will help you discover and achieve your dreams, real world skills that will help you outperform your peers in the workplace, online resources on our website, customized letters of recommendation for prospective employers or graduate schools, graduation accessories that you may purchase and wear at your graduation to display your membership in our organization, access to exclusive scholarships and awards, Success Coaches and our entire Keynote speaker series” (Society Leadership)

So far I have been invited and filled out my application form, but because the chapter has just become recognized at Utica College, I will be unable to do my leadership training until next semester. I am very excited to do so and become a true member!

Our first event will be a Study Social for members and nonmembers on Tuesday, December 9th 2014, from 1:00- 3:30 at the Pioneer Pub. There will be free power study foods and a chance to meet the members of NSLS.

You can learn more about the Utica College chapter at

The information provided can be found (and you can learn more about NSLS) at

Thanksgiving Break! Do you know how your getting home?

Nov 19, 2014 | Author: LaShanna Saunders

This is the time of the year, the holidays are coming soon and trans portion to go home can be difficult to find. Here are some ways you can get home during the holidays.

School Break Bus – Which can be purchased at student activities

Cost: $70 Round trip

Amtrak- Which can be purchased at

Cost: $100 Round Trip

Regular Bus Fair ( Bernie Bus, Grey Hound, etc) Which can also be purchased at Student Activities

Cost: $65-$90

Ebola Awareness

Nov 18, 2014 | Author: Dillan Torres

There seems to be a lot of spoken word on the subject of the Ebola virus. Everyone seems to be afraid of this virus due to the outbreak that has taken place in the U.S. What some may not realize or know is that this is a virus that has been here for many years and did not just appear from the blue. Would you like to know the who, what, when, where, and why of Ebola? If so, come participate in the forum Phi Iota Alpha Fraternity Inc. will be hosting on Wednesday, November 19 in Strebel Student Center. It will be a very insightful and educational forum, you do not want to miss it. Hope to see you there.

How Was Your Weekend?

Nov 18, 2014 | Author: Nayary Rosario

This weekend for me had both its good and bad sides to it. Sadly, I had a lot of studying to do for my biology lab class. I had to learn all the cat muscles that I dissected, and all human muscles of the leg, arm, abdominal, chest, and head. It was really stressful to memorize so many names and know where each of those muscles belong. Overall, I was proud of myself because I was able to memorize it all and ended up helping others. Some good techniques I would recommend anybody else taking biology lab 101 would be to take videos of the muscle and point them out while saying their names, and on your free time, watch those videos. Trust me it will help you a lot.


On the other hand, Saturday night was really fun. I attended the Fuerza Latina Talent Show. There was so many people there that some were not able to get in the auditorium. We had performances from Albany and SUNYIT. A group of dancers were from Albany, and the group from SUNYIT rapped. The talent show was suppose to end  at 9:30 p.m., but it actually ended at 11p.m. It was a long night for all of us that attended, and a very enjoyable one too. My favorite act was the step team, just like last time when they performed at the A.I.M. showcase, They were my favorite, and they still are.