Allison Acquaviva

Public Relations Major. Junior.

Writing Center Tutor. Circle K Member.

I'm a 20 year old Junior in the field of Public Relations. When I'm not blogging or on campus, I enjoy hanging out with family and friends, listening to music, watching Duck Dynasty & volunteering at the local animal shelters in & around the area. Animals are my biggest passion & someday I hope to make a difference in their lives.

Spring Clean Your Life! Here’s the Secret:

Apr 9, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

I love Spring time up here in CNY.  Yes, I know that we’re STILL trying to kick Old Man Winter to the curb, but eventually that will take care of itself!

Spring is by far my favorite season. I love to watch the trees bud and flowers bloom. I love to hear the beautiful birds happily chirping and singing in the morning light. (I know what you’re thinking, it’s like a scene straight out of a Disney movie.) It’s a season of new life, rebirth, hope and restoration.

One of my favorite things to do during this time is spring clean. No, I don’t mean walking around my house carrying a dust mop and a vacuum (although necessary, it certainly IS NOT fun!)  I’m talking about the concept of spring cleaning my life. 

What do I mean? Well, as I’ve mentioned above, I look at Spring as a season of growth. After being stuck in the same mindset all winter, I’m ready for some change!

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created by me

So….how can you begin to spring clean your life? The secret is simple: LET GO.

Imagine that you’re holding onto a million balloons. Each balloon represents every emotion you feel, every problem you faced or any regrets you may have. Eventually, they become too heavy to keep carrying around. So, here’s the thing: let them go. Release them. Take all the garbage from the cold, dark, stagnant winter and throw it away.

  • Spring Clean every little thing that has been weighing you down.
  • Spring Clean the hurts and disappointments.
  • Spring Clean past mistakes or regrets.
  • Spring Clean negativity and expectations.
  • Spring clean the toxic people in your life.

Sounds easy right? Sounds like a simple concept….but, it’s not. It takes a lot of strength and determination to not fall back into old habits! But, you’ll get there.

Spring is a season of new hopes, dreams, goals and life. So don’t cling to the person you were in yesterday, last week, last month, or even last year. Shed old mindsets. Dump old habits. Make way for a new beginning, and allow yourself to gently grow.

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Things Nobody Tells You About Your Senior Year

Mar 17, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

My senior year of college has been my most exciting, yet nerve-wracking experience of my life. Suddenly, everything is on the fast track. From finding internships, creating proper resumes and cover letters, making a perfect media kit, juggling two – soon to be three – blog pages and planning for graduation – whew! I became tired just typing that sentence.

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Here’s the thing: nobody tells you what your senior year of college will really be like. No matter what major you are, us seniors are all in the same boat. Sure, we stress out no matter what year we’re in. However; there’s something about our last year that gives us the willies….am I right?! So, without further ado, here are the top things that no one tells you about your senior year of college:

  • Real life is coming……and fast! This has weighed so much on my mind since beginning the year. Yes, you are prepared each year for the “real world”, but it doesn’t exactly hit you until your last year. There’s no classes to register for, no familiarity at all. “OMG, you’re supposed to work! You have to find a steady job! Here comes those student loan payments!” are the types of thoughts that enter your mind. It’s surreal to think that at one moment you’re working your butt off for an A, the next, you’re working your butt of for a paycheck. Oy vey!
  • The time for trial & error is over: There’s something very earth shattering when you realize that this is your last chance to make everything right. Gone are the days of dropping classes, postponing classes, skipping an assignment, etc. We know that a simple mistake can push-off graduation and we absolutely cannot let that happen.
  • Life will become a balancing act: Somewhere around spring break, we become like professional jugglers. Between our classes, assignments, work, social life, questions from family, planning for graduation, planning for life after graduation we begin to be pulled in 10,000 different directions. Inevitably, we begin to board the emotional roller coaster called “the future.”
  • You’ll feel lost: You’ll start to second guess yourself. You’ll start to wonder if the career path you’ve chosen is the right one. “Will I be able to find a job?” “Where will I find a job?” “Where should I go to find a job?” and more….oh goodness!
  • It’ll all be OKAY: Just breathe, take a deep breath and realize that everything will work out the way it needs to be. Life is funny like that. We stress, we worry, we obsess over everything, but you know what? Everyone feels that way. Just calm down and roll with the changes. That’s what our 20s are all about anyway!

10 Things I Would Tell My Freshman Self

Mar 16, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva
My young, naive freshman self. 2011

My young, naive freshman self. 2011

With graduation fast approaching, it made me reflect on the last four years of my journey through college. My first year was a complete mess. I switched majors twice, had no idea what I wanted to do, and experienced some all too familiar high school drama. Oy! I so did not plan on starting my college life off like that. But, like most things, God had a plan and several lessons in store for me to learn. By my third year, I was FINALLY settled. After changing majors three times, I found my place and have never been happier.

The freshman ‘me’ was so worried about trivial things instead of focusing on what was important. I’ve changed tremendously over the last four years and sometimes, I would love to go back and have a talk with the younger, more naive me. It made me think of everything I would say to the past Allison.

  1. This isn’t high school – let your guard down a little and be open to new possibilities and opportunities.
  2. Stop playing it safe. Step out of your comfort zone and try things that you never thought you would. You’ll end up loving it more than you think.
  3. Focus on what makes you HAPPY, not what will make you money. Money is obviously a necessity to live, but never ever compromise your happiness for the glory of the almighty dollar.
  4. Learn to study. You never had to truly study before and now is the best time to get organized and do it. Find a study method, reevaluate if needed, and commit to it.
  5. Know your professors. Majority of them really want to see you and help you succeed. Don’t be nervous – if you have a problem, ask them. 
  6. Contribute to discussions. If you have something to say – say it. Live fearlessly and boldly. Don’t be afraid to speak up because there are no “bad answers.” Just talk.
  7. Rent your books on Amazon, or anyplace else, but the bookstore. For the love of God rent your books from ANYWHERE ELSE. Nuff said. 
  8. You’re not going to die from public speaking or presenting. Mostly everyone is nervous to do that. Choose confidence over nervousness. You’ll realize that you’re really not so bad at public speaking at all!
  9. Run your own race. Seriously, stop comparing yourself to anyone else. Nobody can do a better job at being you, than YOU!
  10. Have fun, enjoy the bumps, twists and turns. It goes by so fast. 

Spring Farm CARES 3rd Annual Run & Walk For The Animals!

Mar 9, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

Alright folks, the time has come once again to blog about an event that is so near and dear to my heart, The 3rd annual Spring Farm CARES Run and Walk for the animals!

Anyone who knows me, knows my love for animals. Every project I do, every paper I write, and every organization I research are somehow all animal related. I am a huge advocate and often volunteer at the local shelters in the area.

*Side note: I’m working closely with Angels of Fur K-9 Rescue in Rome, NY – an organization dedicated to adopting, rescuing and fostering our canine friends – to establish a blogging website to help spread awareness about adoption and Angels of Fur itself. This is my love.*

Anyway, one of my favorite places to volunteer at is Spring Farm CARES located in Clinton, NY. Spring Farm CARES is a non-kill animal sanctuary fully committed to saving the lives of animals. For more in-depth information about Spring Farm CARES feel free to check out their website here or take a peek at my previous blogs about this organization Running and Walking for our Furry Friends and Spring Farm CARES Run/Walk Reminder

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Thanks to my friends at SFC for the picture!

This 5k run and 1 mile walk is a charitable event to benefit SFC which is currently home to over 250 animals. This year, the event takes place on Saturday, May 2 in the Village of Clinton, NY from 8:00 a.m. – 11:00 a.m. Registration is NOW OPEN & the cost for the run or walk is only $20 until March 30. After that the price increases to $22 until the race day. (Not bad at all!)

How this works is quite simple: Runners will line up at 7:45 a.m. and start the run promptly at 8:00 a.m. Walkers will line up at 8:00 a.m. then begin their part at 8:15 a.m. Once the run/walk is completed, participants can enjoy themselves by feasting on delicious food, listening to some rockin’ music which includes live bands, visit various vendors, and of course, my favorite, see all of the adoptable animals!

Can’t participate in the event, but still want to contribute? Here’s how:

  • DONATIONS: Since Spring Farm CARES is a non-profit organization, they rely heavily on donations. Any amount is appreciated and is always put to good use to benefit the animals! I have seen firsthand how well each and every single one of those animals are loved and cared for.
  • SPONSORSHIP: While Spring Farm CARES hosts many adoptions, they also house many permanent residents. Some of the precious animals that have been brought to there need special attention and care. Unfortunately, due to those conditions, those animals are not able to be adopted. YOU CAN still make a difference! Last Christmas, my parents and I sponsored an adorable cat, Moxie, who had many medical issues. That was one of the best things we could have done for that sweetie. We would frequently receive updates on her, pictures of her, and newsletters regarding her and the rest of the special needs animals.

Please consider participating in this extremely enjoyable event. If you can’t, then please consider donating or sponsoring an animal. Any amount is accepted and appreciated. Even the littlest things can make a big difference. Here are some of the animals that you’d be helping:

Red Barron. A 13 year old Cocker Spaniel who is just a sweet, little teddy bear. I've spent numerous time with him and he has completely captivated my heart.

Red Barron. A 13-year-old Cocker Spaniel who is just a sweet, little teddy bear. I’ve spent numerous time with him and he has completely captivated my heart.

My sweet Moxie girl. She's blind and is filled with medical issues, but she is a total love.

My sweet Moxie girl. She’s blind and is filled with medical issues, but she is a total love.

Sweet little Tommy the cat. Thanks to SFC for the photo.

Sweet little Tommy the cat. Thanks to SFC for the photo.

The miracle dog, Charlie Brown. His story is so touching and almost too incredible for words. He is a Cocker Spaniel who was rescued and found unable to walk. Due to acupuncture, water therapy and extensive medical care, Charlie Brown is able to walk. Thanks to SFC for the photo.

The miracle dog, Charlie Brown. His story is so touching and almost too incredible for words. He is a Cocker Spaniel who was rescued and found unable to walk. Due to acupuncture, water therapy and extensive medical care, Charlie Brown is able to walk. Thanks to SFC for the photo.

To see more animals that you can help, visit their sponsor page on their website. For frequent updates on the permanent residents and adoptable animals, “like” Spring Farm CARES on Facebook. Finally, to register for this precious event, click here!

 

International Women’s Day

Mar 9, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

Every year, around the world on March 8, all women come together and celebrate what it means to be a woman. They are united as one to honor their successes and achievements. International Women’s Day represents an opportunity to show appreciation to the most important female influences in their lives while calling for greater equality.

Each year there is one specific theme that trends all over social media. Last year, the theme was titled (and hash-tagged) #IAmBeautiful – promoting self-love and embracing the glorious beauty that lies within us. This year, the theme is #MakeItHappen – encouraging women to take action and follow their dreams.

In a world that has always stereotyped men as the providers and women as the housewives, women of our generation are taking the world by storm to prove that the times have changed and that women can be as powerful and successful as men.

Personally, I love the Make It Happen campaign. As a young and upcoming career woman entering the public relations field, this has totally been a motivating idea for me. I have TONS of big dreams that I will make happen someday. No woman should be afraid of accomplishing their dreams or following their heart. No woman should have to be discouraged by society because she wears a skirt and high heels. She can muddle through anything with her head held high.

Today….I want to give a shout out to other women out there who are not afraid to make it happen, who are not afraid to let her voice be heard, and who believes that she can accomplish anything.

I also want to take a moment to honor these incredible women in my life.

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These six women have taught me a lot throughout my life. They are strong. They are fearless. They are not afraid to speak their mind, or do what they believe is right. They are honest. They are independent. They are kind. They are positive. These ladies have made a phenomenal difference in my life and as I continue to grow and mature, I can only hope to be half the woman that they are.

So, to all my soul sisters out there, happy women’s day! Take some time to show appreciation to those lovely ladies who inspire you!

Colleges Against Cancer at Utica College: Relay For Life!

Mar 8, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

Cancer.

Just the mere mention of that word sends shivers up and down my spine. Every day millions of people are affected by this horrendous disease. Children, teenagers, adults, families…..sadly, no one is exempt.

In the past 12 years, my family has gone through the loss of three awe-inspiring, heroic people. I lost my uncle and both of my grandfathers due to various forms of cancer and it has completely broken my heart. Each of these men have made incredible impacts on my life and I carry them with me every single day.

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This year, I was so excited to find out that the school approved a new organization: Colleges Against Cancer at Utica College. 

Colleges Against Cancer is a nationwide community of college students, faculty and staff who are dedicated to finding ways to eliminate cancer through programs and keeping the mission of the American Cancer Society.

CAC has hundreds of chapters all over the country and has made a tremendous impact on young people. Perhaps my favorite part of this organization is the fact that our generation is showing the world that WE care and that WE want to make a difference in raising awareness against all forms of this disease.


The most popular event created by the American Cancer Society is the Relay For Life walk. At these events, communities come together as one to honor every battle won, remember each battle lost, and to support those who are still fighting. The common goal is to raise money to help find a cure and to promote ways to reduce your cancer risk.

Relay For Life teams spend the overnight hours taking turns walking or running around a track or path at a local high school, college, etc. Throughout the night there are several ceremonies to join in on as well as several fun and exciting activities for the teams and participants. For more information on what to expect at a Relay event, click here!

From April 17-18, from 6:00 p.m. to 6:00 a.m. UC will host its first Relay For Life event right on campus. So far, there are 23 teams and 85 participants who raised a total of $5,755. To keep up to date with the latest information on this event, consider liking the official “Colleges Against Cancer at Utica College” page on Facebook, or follow the organization on Twitter (@UC_CAC)


Please consider participating or donating to this wonderful cause. If you can’t attend the event, but would like to contribute, you can do so by clicking here. You will immediately see a sign up and donate button.

We all know someone who has been affected by cancer. There are truly no words to describe what losing a family member to that disease feels like. It’s heartbreaking, and it’s something no one should have to endure. A simple donation can truly make a difference in the fight against cancer and make a significant step in finding a cure.

How to Cope When Your Goals Cause Anxiety

Jan 29, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

 

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Image: Google

Have you ever had so many goals and dreams that – before you know it – end up overwhelming you? You’re planning, you’re searching, you’re doing everything you can to ensure that you reach success, then it all crashes down on you? Yes? Well, then this post is for you!

Often times we are so focused on the future that we totally miss the opportunities of the present! We’re overcome with the stress of building the life we want instead of enjoying the life we have now.

Whenever I talk to people about my future career plans and ambitions, or whenever people talk to me about theirs, I notice that we all have one thing in common. Beneath our confident smiles and strong intelligence, we’re completely terrified. Think about it – whether we’re at the beginning, middle, or end of our college education, we’re all in the same boat.

In a few short years we will find ourselves lacing up our running shoes and stilettos, and being thrown into the world of adulthood. How do we handle that? How can we learn to take things one at a time and NOT eat an elephant in one bite? Here’s a few helpful hints:

1) Run at Your Own Pace

Your career path is uniquely yours. There is no time limit for your dreams. It’s not only part of your story, but it’s part of your purpose as well. It took me four times to figure out where I wanted my life to go. Did all those major changes put me behind? A little. Instead of four solid years, it’s taking me four and a half years to obtain my degree, but I refused to settle for a career that was going to make me unhappy for the rest of my life. Did it bother me to know that majority of my friends would be completely finished in May? Yes. But, eventually when I stopped focusing on the journey of my peers, I could focus on figuring out what would make me truly happy, and now, I’m living it.

2) Embrace the Uncertainty

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” – Rainer Maria Rilke

I’m a HUGE fan of this quote. Actually, I’m a huge fan of any inspirational quotes. There’s just something so beautiful about the words of others that really, can make a difference in your life. Here’s the point of this message: embrace the unknown! Often times it’s the fear of the unknown that causes our anxiety, but imagine for a moment, if we had all the answers to life? While it might be helpful, that would make life awfully boring. We find out who we are during the most uncertain, rocky times in our lives.

3) Remember: YOU are Writing Your OWN Story

What are our fears and anxieties telling us? Are they telling us that we’re not good enough? Not smart enough? Not strong enough? Are they telling us that we need to do more and be more? If so, that’s false thinking. Much like the first point, we need to realize that WE are the author’s of our own lives. WE hold the pen. Nobody else does. We can be who we want to be, feel how we want to feel, all without competing with others. People need the skills that we have now. Focus on them. Accept fully who and where you are at this moment.

4) Find Your Inspiration

Everybody needs inspiration and the beautiful thing is that we all have the opportunities to find it.  Our inspiration could come from a book, a friend, a relative….anything. Find it, keep it, and go to it when you need a lift. You’ll be surprised at how your anxieties will quickly fade.

5) Find a Happy Spot

We all have our happy spots. You know, places that we love to go relax and unwind from a long and tiring day? For me, that place happens to be cuddled up at home with my dog on my lap and music in my ears (or a book in my hand). We all need places to go to escape from life a little bit. I find that when I take the time each day to just sit, find my peace, and do something that I love, I’m much less overwhelmed!

Remember: We can achieve whatever we want, whenever we want. The key is to not let your ambitions take control over you.

14 Things to Give Up in 2015

Jan 16, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva
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Image credit: Google

Hopefully 2015 has been treating everyone well so far! I can’t believe we are halfway through this month already! (and not to mention – the Spring semester starts exactly a week from today. Um, WHAT?!) 

So, if you’re like me, you probably are swamped with ideas, goals and resolutions for how you want this year to go. From personal experience, I have discovered that I can be my own worst enemy. That goes for any of us, really.

We stand in our own ways of achieving our dreams and ambitious. We all put limitations on ourselves that prevent us from obtaining what we want. Our ultimate goal should not be to strive for perfection, but rather to embrace our imperfections and adjust to them.

I thought of 14 things that I know I would love to give up this year and that might be beneficial to everyone in order to achieve the success they want! (Especially to start the Spring semester with a bang!)

  1. Self-doubt: The biggest obstacle we face is in our own thinking. Let go of the negative thoughts; turn I can’t into I CAN. How can you achieve what you want when you’re hanging on to the biggest dream killer of all?
  2. Comfort Zones: Nothing great was ever completed by staying inside of a comfort zone. Yes, we get so accustomed and attuned to our habits that it just becomes familiar and increasingly difficult to move out of. Do you want to change your life this year? You’re sure not going to change a thing by playing small. Get out there and show the world who YOU are.
  3. Self-criticism: This really goes hand in hand with point #1, but really, it’s worth repeating. We are our own harshest critics. We beat ourselves up over every little thing and forget that we are human and do make mistakes! Would you speak to a friend the way you speak to yourself? No. So, we need to stop being a bully to ourselves and learn to embrace every positive aspect that we have to offer.
  4. Comparison: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Theodore Roosevelt. That statement couldn’t be anymore true. We are constantly on the comparison bandwagon. Who is doing this, who is doing that. Why aren’t I like that? Why can’t I be like them? Ugh! Just drop this bad habit now. Like, right now. It really is a waste of time and energy. Everyone is on their own paths to success and everyone runs their own race at their own pace. Your life is uniquely yours – live it and love it!
  5. Guilt: Guilt and regrets over the past are the worst feelings. We often dwell on things that went wrong, that we miss everything else that went right. Did you make a mistake? Forgive yourself and move on. My friend shared a quote with me that said “your best teacher is your last mistake.” Learn and grow from your mistakes. Fix what you can, and shake off what you can’t.
  6. Fake Personas: Think of how beautiful the world would be if everyone was simply themselves? If everyone didn’t worry about pleasing others or putting on a show in order to be liked? Forget all that. I received a beautiful gift this Christmas that says: “In a world where you can be anything, be yourself.” It proudly is displayed in my room as a constant reminder to me to be my most authentic self.
  7. Apologies: Apologies are really only useful if you have done something wrong to someone or hurt someone. I’m talking about apologizing for being yourself. If you like something, don’t be afraid to like it. Do you want to join that club? Take that art class? Do it and don’t be sorry just because someone else doesn’t like it.
  8. Excuses: This is a biggie. I can’t tell you how many times a day I’ve told myself “I don’t have time.” “I can’t do this because…” Where does that get me? Nowhere. Be open to new experiences, make time for the things that are important to you. Yes, we all have limitations. But, instead of letting them define us, we should let them push us to be our very best.
  9. Procrastination: Procrastinators unite! Tomorrow. Seriously, if anyone is a pro at procrastinating, it’s me – and I KNOW I’m not alone. Really, procrastinating is useless. All it does is stress me out. Want to make 2015 the year of you? Start now. Don’t wait. Don’t put off anything that you want to (or have to) do.
  10. Social Media: I’m not talking about quitting cold turkey, but consider spending less time behind your phone or computer screen. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc., are not real life. Instead, they often cause us the most problems – especially in the comparison department. Do you really need to post that status about your day at the gym? Do you have to hashtag every word you tweet? Do you have to post that picture of your dinner – hoping you’ll get more than 5 likes? NO. Stop, take a digital detox. It’ll be good for your soul!
  11. Competing: Much like comparison, competing with others gets you nowhere. Win at your own life!
  12. Busyness: In today’s world, you’re not normal unless you have 10 million things to do at one time. Everybody is in such a rush. Imagine how great it would be if people stopped and took a deep breath once in a while? Find something that makes you relax. Read a book, take a walk, sing, do anything that makes you happy and give yourself a break!
  13. Multitasking: This is something that usually people say to describe themselves. “I’m great at multitasking!” While this is not a bad character trait, it’s not good to always be multitasking. Focus your time and attention on one thing at a time. By doing two, three, 10 or 15 things at once will not lead to accomplishment, but rather – confusion. One step at a time, one thing at a time.
  14. Anxiety: With the new semester just around the corner, it’s only natural to get nervous. Thinking about what the semester will bring can be stressful. But, just like living in the past, living in the future doesn’t do anyone any good. Worrying about things you can’t control, or events that are outside of your circle of influence is not good for your mind or body. Take a breather. Find your inner peace. Gain your confidence. Know that you can and will be able to handle anything that comes your way.

 

How to Manage Anxiety While in College

Dec 7, 2014 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

College can be an exciting but extremely stressful part of our journey into adulthood. It’s the first time that we have the power to choose where we want our lives to go. We get the chance to choose the career path that we have to be happy with for the rest of our lives! No pressure, right? Wrong. 

The more research I’ve done, the more I see that anxiety is a growing problem among young people – especially college students. Plus, I have my own personal experience with this….

Anxiety is a topic that I’ve kept quiet about, but always wanted to address. I think if more people were willing to discuss it and were willing to realize just how many people are affected, there wouldn’t be such a stigma about this.

Here’s the thing: Anxiety is so much more than just getting nervous. Anxiety is an internal life altering condition that can affect the way a person thinks, feels, and lives their life. Anxiety is also not the same thing as stress, though they are used interchangeably. Stress is caused by external circumstances, and majority of the time, it can easily be controlled or managed.

Anxiety affects millions of people every single day. It doesn’t discriminate. Research has shown that people from ages 16-25 years old are more likely to experience and suffer from anxiety due to the high demands and pressures of society. Interested in learning more? Read here.

As someone who has experienced anxiety, I know how debilitating it can be. You feel alone, misunderstood, and you constantly feel like you’re a prisoner of your own thoughts. That’s a lot to take on at such a young age!

However, I know I’m not the only one who has felt this way before. I know that there many people who choose to remain silent due to fear and judgement. I also know that I’m not one of those people anymore. So, if you’re like me and live with anxiety, I’ve compiled a list of ways to help you manage college life along with keeping your health in check.

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  1. Breathe: I know firsthand how classes, professors, assignments, projects, and presentations can completely overwhelm you. Take a few deep breaths. If you find yourself in that place of anxiousness, stop for a moment. Go somewhere quiet and take in a few deep breaths. Focusing on inhaling and exhaling sends oxygen to your brain and stops the anxiety from occurring.
  2. Watch What You Eat: While it is important to have a balanced, healthy diet, I’m not talking about food here. Watch what you feed your soul. Are you constantly digesting negativity? Are you indulging yourself in the judgments of others? If yes, stop. It’s unhealthy and will only feed your fears. Instead, surround yourself with positivity. Read positive blogs, read positive affirmations, and of course, surround yourself with positive people.
  3. Talk: One of the best ways to combat anxiety is to talk it out. Find someone you trust – whether that is a family member or close friend. Allow yourself to be vulnerable, but avoid people who are only going to use that vulnerability against you. When you confide in someone about your anxiety, be very selective. Not everyone is going to understand your journey. But, when you find that special person that you feel that you can open up to, do it. Don’t hide yourself. Be prepared though for frustrating and hurtful times on both of your parts. If the person that you talk to doesn’t have anxiety, be patient with them as they try to understand what you’re going through. Realize that it’s not easy for them to understand, but by being as straightforward as possible, you’ll help them know you a little better. Don’t be afraid to let someone see the dark side of you. If they truly love you, they won’t walk away from your friendship or relationship.
  4. Let Your Professors Know What’s Up: Anyone living with anxiety knows that some days are better than others. Some days, you’re fine, and some days, you struggle to get out of bed. Anxiety can hit you out of nowhere. If that happens, and you find yourself having to leave or miss class because of it, let your professor know what’s going on. You don’t need to go into explicit detail, but give them a heads up. You don’t want them to think that you’re merely skipping class or are just plain irresponsible. It might be embarrassing, but chances are they will understand and your grade won’t suffer because of it.
  5. Self-Care/Self-Love: This is probably the most important tip. Learning to love yourself despite your anxiety is hard. Very hard. But, it is oh so necessary. Every day, take some time out to do something you enjoy. Make time in your busy schedule for YOU. Take a walk, play with your pet, read your favorite book, listen to your favorite song, do Yoga, exercise…allow yourself to be happy.

Bottom line is that living with anxiety sucks. It sucks more when you’re in college. But there are so many ways to get help and keep your anxiety level low. Be confident. Be brave. Be bold. Be you.

Why It’s Okay To Be Selfish in College

Nov 21, 2014 | Author: Allison Acquaviva
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“I’m so busy. I’m so stressed out.”

If I had a penny for every time I thought or said that, I would have enough money to take that Disney (or Hawaiian) vacation that I so desperately need!

Between classes, homework, writing for The Tangerine, blogging, and other obligations, I sometimes feel as if my world is going to cave in! Yikes!

I never realized how bad my stress level was until I went to my doctor and she pointed it out to me. Oy! This year, my stress level has been at an all-time high, and I found myself adding MORE stress to combat the other stress. Silly right? I threw myself into everything & anything that I could, and seriously compromised my health because of it. I guess it’s not normal to be stressed, anxious, tired and irritable all the time. Who knew?

My experience with stress and anxiety in college really inspired me to write this post. It got me thinking about how the world and society holds such high expectations for us. The world forces us to put our own health on the back burner. We are always pressured to do more, work more, BE more. We think that adding more stuff to our ever-growing mountain of stress will distract us. Wrong.  

It’s NOT natural!

Don’t get me wrong, it’s a wonderful thing to be goal-oriented and have fantastic work ethic – in fact, employers love that! But, there’s something very wrong with living by a weekly planner, living on caffeine, and doing your best work under pressure.

Here’s the thing: We’ve conditioned ourselves for stress. We fear that we would be “selfish” for taking a mental health day. Ultimately, we ignore our own happiness and health, and squeeze in something else into our tight little schedules.

Now that the end of the semester is near, are you finding yourself completely overwhelmed? Do you say yes to multiple things that you have no time for? Is your brain on overload? I could sum this up with one piece of advice: SLOW DOWN! But, that wouldn’t be helpful would it? No. So, here are some tips on how to be less stressed, less anxious, happier & healthier.

1) Look at how you begin your day: We have all heard our mothers say these famous words: “Eat your breakfast. It’s the most important meal of the day.”  Mother truly knows best! Do you skip breakfast because you’re in such a rush? Stop. That’s self-punishing. Keep some ready-to-go food in the kitchen. Fruit, bagels, muffins, etc, are better than nothing. Feed your body & brain.

2) Unlearn self-punishment and embrace self-love: Often, we get so caught up in our work and goals that we punish ourselves for not reaching them, or for simply making mistakes along the way. We look at ourselves as failures if we didn’t achieve that “A” we worked so hard for. We need to learn to cut ourselves a break. Be low-maintenance and accept that you’re human.

3) Find relaxation techniques: When stress begins to consume me, I try to do something for myself that will make my soul happy. That includes writing in my journal, playing with my dog, drinking hot tea, or even just listening to music. Relaxation is a must. Overwhelmed with your responsibilities? Take small breaks, do some yoga, do a little self pampering, eat healthy snacks, or even wear your favorite color to class.

Believe it or not, little things like that can make a world of difference to your mood and mind. Taking care of ourselves is not selfish; It’s a priority. To be successful, we need to be healthy and relaxed.