Allison Acquaviva

Public Relations Major. Junior.

Writing Center Tutor. Circle K Member.

I'm a 20 year old Junior in the field of Public Relations. When I'm not blogging or on campus, I enjoy hanging out with family and friends, listening to music, watching Duck Dynasty & volunteering at the local animal shelters in & around the area. Animals are my biggest passion & someday I hope to make a difference in their lives.

How to Cope When Your Goals Cause Anxiety

Jan 29, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

 

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Image: Google

Have you ever had so many goals and dreams that – before you know it – end up overwhelming you? You’re planning, you’re searching, you’re doing everything you can to ensure that you reach success, then it all crashes down on you? Yes? Well, then this post is for you!

Often times we are so focused on the future that we totally miss the opportunities of the present! We’re overcome with the stress of building the life we want instead of enjoying the life we have now.

Whenever I talk to people about my future career plans and ambitions, or whenever people talk to me about theirs, I notice that we all have one thing in common. Beneath our confident smiles and strong intelligence, we’re completely terrified. Think about it – whether we’re at the beginning, middle, or end of our college education, we’re all in the same boat.

In a few short years we will find ourselves lacing up our running shoes and stilettos, and being thrown into the world of adulthood. How do we handle that? How can we learn to take things one at a time and NOT eat an elephant in one bite? Here’s a few helpful hints:

1) Run at Your Own Pace

Your career path is uniquely yours. There is no time limit for your dreams. It’s not only part of your story, but it’s part of your purpose as well. It took me four times to figure out where I wanted my life to go. Did all those major changes put me behind? A little. Instead of four solid years, it’s taking me four and a half years to obtain my degree, but I refused to settle for a career that was going to make me unhappy for the rest of my life. Did it bother me to know that majority of my friends would be completely finished in May? Yes. But, eventually when I stopped focusing on the journey of my peers, I could focus on figuring out what would make me truly happy, and now, I’m living it.

2) Embrace the Uncertainty

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” – Rainer Maria Rilke

I’m a HUGE fan of this quote. Actually, I’m a huge fan of any inspirational quotes. There’s just something so beautiful about the words of others that really, can make a difference in your life. Here’s the point of this message: embrace the unknown! Often times it’s the fear of the unknown that causes our anxiety, but imagine for a moment, if we had all the answers to life? While it might be helpful, that would make life awfully boring. We find out who we are during the most uncertain, rocky times in our lives.

3) Remember: YOU are Writing Your OWN Story

What are our fears and anxieties telling us? Are they telling us that we’re not good enough? Not smart enough? Not strong enough? Are they telling us that we need to do more and be more? If so, that’s false thinking. Much like the first point, we need to realize that WE are the author’s of our own lives. WE hold the pen. Nobody else does. We can be who we want to be, feel how we want to feel, all without competing with others. People need the skills that we have now. Focus on them. Accept fully who and where you are at this moment.

4) Find Your Inspiration

Everybody needs inspiration and the beautiful thing is that we all have the opportunities to find it.  Our inspiration could come from a book, a friend, a relative….anything. Find it, keep it, and go to it when you need a lift. You’ll be surprised at how your anxieties will quickly fade.

5) Find a Happy Spot

We all have our happy spots. You know, places that we love to go relax and unwind from a long and tiring day? For me, that place happens to be cuddled up at home with my dog on my lap and music in my ears (or a book in my hand). We all need places to go to escape from life a little bit. I find that when I take the time each day to just sit, find my peace, and do something that I love, I’m much less overwhelmed!

Remember: We can achieve whatever we want, whenever we want. The key is to not let your ambitions take control over you.

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14 Things to Give Up in 2015

Jan 16, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva
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Image credit: Google

Hopefully 2015 has been treating everyone well so far! I can’t believe we are halfway through this month already! (and not to mention – the Spring semester starts exactly a week from today. Um, WHAT?!) 

So, if you’re like me, you probably are swamped with ideas, goals and resolutions for how you want this year to go. From personal experience, I have discovered that I can be my own worst enemy. That goes for any of us, really.

We stand in our own ways of achieving our dreams and ambitious. We all put limitations on ourselves that prevent us from obtaining what we want. Our ultimate goal should not be to strive for perfection, but rather to embrace our imperfections and adjust to them.

I thought of 14 things that I know I would love to give up this year and that might be beneficial to everyone in order to achieve the success they want! (Especially to start the Spring semester with a bang!)

  1. Self-doubt: The biggest obstacle we face is in our own thinking. Let go of the negative thoughts; turn I can’t into I CAN. How can you achieve what you want when you’re hanging on to the biggest dream killer of all?
  2. Comfort Zones: Nothing great was ever completed by staying inside of a comfort zone. Yes, we get so accustomed and attuned to our habits that it just becomes familiar and increasingly difficult to move out of. Do you want to change your life this year? You’re sure not going to change a thing by playing small. Get out there and show the world who YOU are.
  3. Self-criticism: This really goes hand in hand with point #1, but really, it’s worth repeating. We are our own harshest critics. We beat ourselves up over every little thing and forget that we are human and do make mistakes! Would you speak to a friend the way you speak to yourself? No. So, we need to stop being a bully to ourselves and learn to embrace every positive aspect that we have to offer.
  4. Comparison: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Theodore Roosevelt. That statement couldn’t be anymore true. We are constantly on the comparison bandwagon. Who is doing this, who is doing that. Why aren’t I like that? Why can’t I be like them? Ugh! Just drop this bad habit now. Like, right now. It really is a waste of time and energy. Everyone is on their own paths to success and everyone runs their own race at their own pace. Your life is uniquely yours – live it and love it!
  5. Guilt: Guilt and regrets over the past are the worst feelings. We often dwell on things that went wrong, that we miss everything else that went right. Did you make a mistake? Forgive yourself and move on. My friend shared a quote with me that said “your best teacher is your last mistake.” Learn and grow from your mistakes. Fix what you can, and shake off what you can’t.
  6. Fake Personas: Think of how beautiful the world would be if everyone was simply themselves? If everyone didn’t worry about pleasing others or putting on a show in order to be liked? Forget all that. I received a beautiful gift this Christmas that says: “In a world where you can be anything, be yourself.” It proudly is displayed in my room as a constant reminder to me to be my most authentic self.
  7. Apologies: Apologies are really only useful if you have done something wrong to someone or hurt someone. I’m talking about apologizing for being yourself. If you like something, don’t be afraid to like it. Do you want to join that club? Take that art class? Do it and don’t be sorry just because someone else doesn’t like it.
  8. Excuses: This is a biggie. I can’t tell you how many times a day I’ve told myself “I don’t have time.” “I can’t do this because…” Where does that get me? Nowhere. Be open to new experiences, make time for the things that are important to you. Yes, we all have limitations. But, instead of letting them define us, we should let them push us to be our very best.
  9. Procrastination: Procrastinators unite! Tomorrow. Seriously, if anyone is a pro at procrastinating, it’s me – and I KNOW I’m not alone. Really, procrastinating is useless. All it does is stress me out. Want to make 2015 the year of you? Start now. Don’t wait. Don’t put off anything that you want to (or have to) do.
  10. Social Media: I’m not talking about quitting cold turkey, but consider spending less time behind your phone or computer screen. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc., are not real life. Instead, they often cause us the most problems – especially in the comparison department. Do you really need to post that status about your day at the gym? Do you have to hashtag every word you tweet? Do you have to post that picture of your dinner – hoping you’ll get more than 5 likes? NO. Stop, take a digital detox. It’ll be good for your soul!
  11. Competing: Much like comparison, competing with others gets you nowhere. Win at your own life!
  12. Busyness: In today’s world, you’re not normal unless you have 10 million things to do at one time. Everybody is in such a rush. Imagine how great it would be if people stopped and took a deep breath once in a while? Find something that makes you relax. Read a book, take a walk, sing, do anything that makes you happy and give yourself a break!
  13. Multitasking: This is something that usually people say to describe themselves. “I’m great at multitasking!” While this is not a bad character trait, it’s not good to always be multitasking. Focus your time and attention on one thing at a time. By doing two, three, 10 or 15 things at once will not lead to accomplishment, but rather – confusion. One step at a time, one thing at a time.
  14. Anxiety: With the new semester just around the corner, it’s only natural to get nervous. Thinking about what the semester will bring can be stressful. But, just like living in the past, living in the future doesn’t do anyone any good. Worrying about things you can’t control, or events that are outside of your circle of influence is not good for your mind or body. Take a breather. Find your inner peace. Gain your confidence. Know that you can and will be able to handle anything that comes your way.

 

How to Manage Anxiety While in College

Dec 7, 2014 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

College can be an exciting but extremely stressful part of our journey into adulthood. It’s the first time that we have the power to choose where we want our lives to go. We get the chance to choose the career path that we have to be happy with for the rest of our lives! No pressure, right? Wrong. 

The more research I’ve done, the more I see that anxiety is a growing problem among young people – especially college students. Plus, I have my own personal experience with this….

Anxiety is a topic that I’ve kept quiet about, but always wanted to address. I think if more people were willing to discuss it and were willing to realize just how many people are affected, there wouldn’t be such a stigma about this.

Here’s the thing: Anxiety is so much more than just getting nervous. Anxiety is an internal life altering condition that can affect the way a person thinks, feels, and lives their life. Anxiety is also not the same thing as stress, though they are used interchangeably. Stress is caused by external circumstances, and majority of the time, it can easily be controlled or managed.

Anxiety affects millions of people every single day. It doesn’t discriminate. Research has shown that people from ages 16-25 years old are more likely to experience and suffer from anxiety due to the high demands and pressures of society. Interested in learning more? Read here.

As someone who has experienced anxiety, I know how debilitating it can be. You feel alone, misunderstood, and you constantly feel like you’re a prisoner of your own thoughts. That’s a lot to take on at such a young age!

However, I know I’m not the only one who has felt this way before. I know that there many people who choose to remain silent due to fear and judgement. I also know that I’m not one of those people anymore. So, if you’re like me and live with anxiety, I’ve compiled a list of ways to help you manage college life along with keeping your health in check.

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  1. Breathe: I know firsthand how classes, professors, assignments, projects, and presentations can completely overwhelm you. Take a few deep breaths. If you find yourself in that place of anxiousness, stop for a moment. Go somewhere quiet and take in a few deep breaths. Focusing on inhaling and exhaling sends oxygen to your brain and stops the anxiety from occurring.
  2. Watch What You Eat: While it is important to have a balanced, healthy diet, I’m not talking about food here. Watch what you feed your soul. Are you constantly digesting negativity? Are you indulging yourself in the judgments of others? If yes, stop. It’s unhealthy and will only feed your fears. Instead, surround yourself with positivity. Read positive blogs, read positive affirmations, and of course, surround yourself with positive people.
  3. Talk: One of the best ways to combat anxiety is to talk it out. Find someone you trust – whether that is a family member or close friend. Allow yourself to be vulnerable, but avoid people who are only going to use that vulnerability against you. When you confide in someone about your anxiety, be very selective. Not everyone is going to understand your journey. But, when you find that special person that you feel that you can open up to, do it. Don’t hide yourself. Be prepared though for frustrating and hurtful times on both of your parts. If the person that you talk to doesn’t have anxiety, be patient with them as they try to understand what you’re going through. Realize that it’s not easy for them to understand, but by being as straightforward as possible, you’ll help them know you a little better. Don’t be afraid to let someone see the dark side of you. If they truly love you, they won’t walk away from your friendship or relationship.
  4. Let Your Professors Know What’s Up: Anyone living with anxiety knows that some days are better than others. Some days, you’re fine, and some days, you struggle to get out of bed. Anxiety can hit you out of nowhere. If that happens, and you find yourself having to leave or miss class because of it, let your professor know what’s going on. You don’t need to go into explicit detail, but give them a heads up. You don’t want them to think that you’re merely skipping class or are just plain irresponsible. It might be embarrassing, but chances are they will understand and your grade won’t suffer because of it.
  5. Self-Care/Self-Love: This is probably the most important tip. Learning to love yourself despite your anxiety is hard. Very hard. But, it is oh so necessary. Every day, take some time out to do something you enjoy. Make time in your busy schedule for YOU. Take a walk, play with your pet, read your favorite book, listen to your favorite song, do Yoga, exercise…allow yourself to be happy.

Bottom line is that living with anxiety sucks. It sucks more when you’re in college. But there are so many ways to get help and keep your anxiety level low. Be confident. Be brave. Be bold. Be you.

Why It’s Okay To Be Selfish in College

Nov 21, 2014 | Author: Allison Acquaviva
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Image from Google

“I’m so busy. I’m so stressed out.”

If I had a penny for every time I thought or said that, I would have enough money to take that Disney (or Hawaiian) vacation that I so desperately need!

Between classes, homework, writing for The Tangerine, blogging, and other obligations, I sometimes feel as if my world is going to cave in! Yikes!

I never realized how bad my stress level was until I went to my doctor and she pointed it out to me. Oy! This year, my stress level has been at an all-time high, and I found myself adding MORE stress to combat the other stress. Silly right? I threw myself into everything & anything that I could, and seriously compromised my health because of it. I guess it’s not normal to be stressed, anxious, tired and irritable all the time. Who knew?

My experience with stress and anxiety in college really inspired me to write this post. It got me thinking about how the world and society holds such high expectations for us. The world forces us to put our own health on the back burner. We are always pressured to do more, work more, BE more. We think that adding more stuff to our ever-growing mountain of stress will distract us. Wrong.  

It’s NOT natural!

Don’t get me wrong, it’s a wonderful thing to be goal-oriented and have fantastic work ethic – in fact, employers love that! But, there’s something very wrong with living by a weekly planner, living on caffeine, and doing your best work under pressure.

Here’s the thing: We’ve conditioned ourselves for stress. We fear that we would be “selfish” for taking a mental health day. Ultimately, we ignore our own happiness and health, and squeeze in something else into our tight little schedules.

Now that the end of the semester is near, are you finding yourself completely overwhelmed? Do you say yes to multiple things that you have no time for? Is your brain on overload? I could sum this up with one piece of advice: SLOW DOWN! But, that wouldn’t be helpful would it? No. So, here are some tips on how to be less stressed, less anxious, happier & healthier.

1) Look at how you begin your day: We have all heard our mothers say these famous words: “Eat your breakfast. It’s the most important meal of the day.”  Mother truly knows best! Do you skip breakfast because you’re in such a rush? Stop. That’s self-punishing. Keep some ready-to-go food in the kitchen. Fruit, bagels, muffins, etc, are better than nothing. Feed your body & brain.

2) Unlearn self-punishment and embrace self-love: Often, we get so caught up in our work and goals that we punish ourselves for not reaching them, or for simply making mistakes along the way. We look at ourselves as failures if we didn’t achieve that “A” we worked so hard for. We need to learn to cut ourselves a break. Be low-maintenance and accept that you’re human.

3) Find relaxation techniques: When stress begins to consume me, I try to do something for myself that will make my soul happy. That includes writing in my journal, playing with my dog, drinking hot tea, or even just listening to music. Relaxation is a must. Overwhelmed with your responsibilities? Take small breaks, do some yoga, do a little self pampering, eat healthy snacks, or even wear your favorite color to class.

Believe it or not, little things like that can make a world of difference to your mood and mind. Taking care of ourselves is not selfish; It’s a priority. To be successful, we need to be healthy and relaxed.

COM 130: My Experience in My Favorite Class

Nov 2, 2014 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

As a PR major, I am so fortunate to be able to dabble in all different types of classes. This semester, I was so nervous to take the WPNR Practicum. The thought of having my own radio show for an hour was crazy.

I never pictured myself as the DJ type of girl. Sure, I could play the music easily, but could I talk? What on earth was I supposed to say on the air? How would I sound? What if I messed up? Those were just some of the thoughts that ran through my head, and that was just on training day! 

Picture Courtesy of the WPNR Facebook Page

Picture Courtesy of the WPNR Facebook Page

The first day that I was on air I totally didn’t expect much of anything. I figured that I would play the music, introduce an artist or two and that would be it. However; I was liking what I was doing!

As the weeks went on, I became more comfortable and I realized that I truly enjoyed this radio gig! Of course, I have a huge support system of family and friends who listen every week and always manage to give me positive feedback, so they always boost my confidence!

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I now find myself really excited for Friday mornings. I love the music I play, I love getting the opportunity to let my voice be heard, and I love the fact that I step out of my comfort zone more and more each week.

I never imagined that this would become my favorite class, and I never expected how sad I would be to see it end. Taking this class has taught me so much about myself and what I truly am capable of!

Animals Need Your Help: Donate Now to the Stevens-Swan Humane Society!

Oct 30, 2014 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

1392007_10202892339099050_7225701750289333058_nUtica College’s organization, Asa Gray, is holding donations for our area’s largest animal shelter: The Stevens-Swan Humane Society.

The Stevens-Swan Humane Society has been in business since the early 1900’s and has made a huge impact ever since. The SSHS is fully dedicated to helping and preventing the cruelty, abuse and neglect of animals.

How do they do this?

  • They have an enormous adoption center where people are able to save a life, every single day.
  • They try their hardest to make the world a better place for all of the neglected, abandoned, and homeless animals by providing food, water and shelter.
  • They aim to educate the community about humane care, the animal/human bond, and the treatment of animals.
  • Finally, the SSHS relies heavily on donations and memberships from companies and the community, to assist them in ensuring the care of their animals.

The Stevens-Swan Humane Society is currently overwhelmed with kittens and puppies during this time, and therefore, they could use all of the help they can get!

Right now, they are looking for blankets, towels, stuffed animals, cleaning products, and paper towels. 

Interested in donating? Please, please, please bring your items to the boxes that are located outside of The Bistro and Student Financial Services. Students will be collecting throughout Halloween.

Hopping on the Bandwagon! 21 Questions

Oct 28, 2014 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

Honestly, I’ve enjoyed seeing my fellow bloggers participate in this 21 questions game, and I figured since I have never done a post like this before, why not? Here it goes:

What is your year/major?

Senior & Public Relations :)

When’s your birthday?

August 21

Where are you from?

Born & raised here in the 315!

Why Utica College ?
I had a few friends that went here & loved it. Plus, I fell in love with the campus and wanted to stay close to home :)

What is your favorite cereal?
I honestly don’t eat cereal!

Do you have any pets?
Yes!

What is your favorite season?
Spring & summer. I hate the humidity & storms, but love the sunshine & warmth!

What is your favorite thing about Utica College?
I love the Public Relations program. Each professor is great, and I’ve had so many opportunities already!

What city you would like to visit?
Boston. I’ve already been there, but I love it.

Favorite song?
I’m a country girl, so I have too many to list!

Any siblings?
Nope!

What is your favorite animal?
Dogs & kitties. Love those little angels!

Favorite restaurant?
Basil Bluz Bistro

Pet peeves?
Mean people! Plain & simple!

Favorite quote?
“The flower that blooms in adversity, is the most rare and beautiful of all.”

Most played song?

Something in the Water  – Carrie Underwood

Favorite video game?

I don’t really have one!

If you could be friends with any celebrity, who would it be?

Carrie Underwood, or pretty much any country music star.

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I was lucky enough to meet Carrie Underwood 2 years ago. She was super sweet!

What do you want to be when you grow up?
Happy. Enough said!

 

Career Advice: How to Be a Go-Getter

Oct 21, 2014 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

“Look at them. They are such go-getters!” Let’s be honest; how many times have we all heard (or said) that before? We might be describing our friends, family members, co-workers, or even ourselves.

Being a “go-getter” is such a wonderful compliment, and we as future professionals should embrace it. How can we get there? How can we motivate ourselves to be “go-getters”?

Tips on how to be a go-getter, from a go-getter herself! (created by me in Pixlr)

Tips on how to be a go-getter, from a go-getter herself! (created by me in Pixlr)

  • Believe that you CAN overcome any obstacle: There is a force within you that is greater than any roadblock. It’s called determination. Every go-getter believes that they have strengths and capabilities to climb over the hurdles that life will inevitably throw at us. Sometimes, these hurdles can be so big, so overwhelming that we start to lose our hope, confidence , and simply, just want to quit. That’s a natural reaction, but in those times, we have to believe that our purpose is far greater than what we think.
  • Create visions and goals for YOUR life: No matter what year you’re in, as college students, we know that we are nearing the end of our education. It’s time to lace up our running shoes and achieve our dreams. Note: a vision is NOT the same thing as a plan. The difference? A plan is structured; a vision is more broad.
  • Blend your passions and professions: As we grow up, it becomes easier to lose our passions. We start to focus on the life’s stresses and forget what truly makes us happy. I think we owe it to ourselves to at least try to incorporate our passions into our work. Having trouble figuring out if you’re in the right program? Ask yourself what your passions are and ask yourself if you can make that work in your career.

What are your top three ways to be a go getter? 

Are You Too Busy to Be Successful? Keys to Managing Your Time Effectively

Oct 19, 2014 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

It’s only the middle of the semester, but we are already feeling the pressure of upcoming deadlines for projects, papers, and exams. It’s making us crazy, overwhelmed and just stressed out. 

Managing your time effectively is so much more than simply not procrastinating. In order to be successful, you must be organized, determined, and be willing to work your hardest. Everyone knows that though….right?

Here are some key concepts to make managing your time easier and to make your success rate soar:

1. Evaluate Your Timelines: Are you constantly struggling and staying up all night just to finish an assignment? If so, it’s time to re-evaluate your timeline. Set realistic expectations for yourself that you can handle without feeling overextended.

2. Don’t Underestimate Deadlines: Just because something is due in November, does not mean you should wait to DO it then. It’s important to be open about the time you take to work on things. Granted, we all need relaxation time, but before you put off any of your assignments, make sure you will be able to deliver on that deadline. They are sneaky little buggers.

3. Embrace the Power of No: Every day, we are presented with opportunities and things we want to do. Unfortunately, there aren’t enough hours in the day to possibly get everything that we want to done. It’s okay to say no. Sometimes, for our own sanity, we have to let go of unnecessary obligations….for the time being. That doesn’t mean we can’t revisit them later on when we’re less busy.

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4. Take a Digital Diet: Put down the phone, log out of Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest and the list goes on. I know, easier said than done, right? Absolutely! I can’t tell you how many times I get distracted by my phone, Kindle, or even my dog. Then, before you know it, what was supposed to be an hour-long assignment has turned into an all day affair. Seriously, for your own benefit, put the digital devices away.

5. Prioritize: Consider what projects must be done first. Then, consider how your time can be used more productively. For example, if you have that dreaded research paper to do, think about the ways that you can make your life easier. Is there anything you can complete ahead of time? If so, do it. Also, try making a “today” list instead of a “to do” list. Focus on the tasks that you want to complete that day. Looking at all the tasks you have to do, might completely overwhelm you.

Do you want to be more successful? Do you want to accomplish more? Try doing these five key points. If those don’t work for you, make your own list of steps that you feel would be beneficial to you. Take that “too busy” feeling and turn it into a “successful” feeling!

An Introvert’s Guide to Succeeding in College

Oct 14, 2014 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

I’m an introvert. Yes, it’s true. I’d much rather chill out at home with tea in my hand and my puppy on my lap than pretend I’m having fun at some huge party surrounded by people who I don’t even know.

Don’t get me wrong; I DO enjoy socializing. In fact, there are a lot of misconceptions about being an introvert. We get told that we don’t like people, we have poor social skills, we don’t have valuable ideas, and the list goes on….

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Created by me on Meme Generator

But, here’s the thing: none of those accusations are true. Introverts ARE capable of having great social skills, they CAN become successful business men or women, and we DO value the relationships that we have.

Throughout our whole college career we’ll hear things such as:

  • “Get out of the box.”
  • “Put your introverted self away.”
  • “You need to become more outgoing and change your personality, or you’ll never have a fun college experience.”
  • “You won’t meet anyone by sitting on the couch!”

While it is important to expand your horizons and step outside of your comfort zone, everybody does it differently, and nobody has the right to judge. If you’re introverted like me, know that you can have a fantastic college experience. Here’s how:

  1. Find your circle: You’ll come across tons of people in your curriculum, but that doesn’t mean you need to befriend every single one of them. If conversations make you feel a little uncomfortable, start small. Talk to the person next to you, in back of you, to the side of you, wherever. If you only take away one friend from a class, so be it. Lose the notion that you need to have a billion friends. Remember: introverts care about quality NOT quantity.
  2. Take advantage of office hours, e-mail, anything! Have an idea or question that you would love to express to your professor, but are a little apprehensive to ask in front of class? Approach your professor after class, during office hours, or even through e-mail. Don’t let your idea or question go by the wayside. A professor will respect you so much more if you contribute your thoughts to them instead of ignoring them.
  3. Create your own fun: If going to a party just isn’t your thing, find something that is. The campus is filled with tons of activities for everyone to get involved in. From intramural sports to yoga, art classes, Bible study, and various organizations, the opportunities for those of us who are on the reserved side, are endless.

Find your people. Find your common interests (yes, there ARE people who have the same interests as you). Stick with them. Quit listening to the voices that tell you who you should be or what you have to do. Everyone’s personality is different, and if you’re introverted, there’s nothing wrong with that. After all, YOU create your own experiences, no one else does.