Allison Acquaviva

Public Relations Major. Junior.

Writing Center Tutor. Circle K Member.

I'm a 20 year old Junior in the field of Public Relations. When I'm not blogging or on campus, I enjoy hanging out with family and friends, listening to music, watching Duck Dynasty & volunteering at the local animal shelters in & around the area. Animals are my biggest passion & someday I hope to make a difference in their lives.

10 Things I Learned in College That Were Not Taught in a Classroom

May 11, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva
Photo credit: Me

Photo credit: Me


It’s true when they say that not everything can be taught out of books. Looking back on these last four years, I realize how much time I spent doing homework, worrying about grades, pleasing my professors, studying for numerous tests & quizzes, & working endlessly on projects (oh, the media kit…PR majors will understand).

All of these things have prepared me to enter the workforce. By doing every single assignment, prepping for every exam, attending every lecture, etc., I have gained the knowledge I need to be successful in Public Relations. However; as I reflect on my years spent at Utica College and the educational wisdom I have, I also know that college has given me life lessons that I will always remember. Here are some:

  1. Who I am: This didn’t just occur in one big “aha!” or epiphany moment. This was a process that was exciting, interesting, and often times, very confusing. Through all of my major switches, successes, failures, and moving slowly, but surely out of my comfort zone, I began to recognize who I am & who I want to be. I learned what my interests were, what I was most passionate about, and I even discovered talents that I never knew I had.
  2. Who I’m not: Conversely, college made me realize who I wasn’t. I learned this by going through the three major switches. I learned that it is completely useless to be someone you’re not. By trying to be like other people, you stifle your own strengths & interests. I learned that by being myself, I’m a much happier, genuine & healthier person.
  3. How to dream: College taught me how to dream. Here I learned all about majors and careers I never knew existed. I never heard of Public Relations before discovering it through Utica College. I never knew how much I could fall in love with my major & how many opportunities there are and will be for me. These four years showed me a little taste of the real world & taught me how to dream beyond anything I could imagine.
  4. What I want: After 2.5 years of jumping from major to major, I finally settled in the place where I belong. As soon as I jumped into the PR field, I knew this was exactly what I was meant to do and I knew that I would be completely happy. All it took was some trial and error for me to dig a little deeper about my passion, what I want, & what I aspire to be.
  5. How to balance: One of the most important lessons I’ve learned is how to balance, how to prioritize. Life is all about balancing your job, family, friends, personal time, etc. College gave me a little glimpse into how to be better organized, balance fun and work, and put my priorities in order.
  6. How to trust the process of letting go: In college (& in life in general), there are all types of people you will meet. Some will be blessings, others will be lessons. I’ve had so many people blow in and out of my life in these last four years. Some have been breaths of fresh air – always supportive, always encouraging, & always positive. Some have also been negative, discouraging, and untrustworthy. However; I learned from those people. I learned how to build trust within myself. I learned how to let go of negativity, let go of the fake friends, and to stop worrying over people who didn’t matter. I learned that it is okay to burn bridges sometimes.
  7. How to accept others: Although I hated high school with a passion & would never ever wish to go back there in a million years, that place was my comfort zone. Everything & everyone was familiar. College tossed me into a whole new world filled with all different kinds of people. They weren’t all like me, they weren’t even all my age. I grew to appreciate and respect those amazing cultural differences.
  8. Who my real friends are: I have learned that in life, quality is so much more important than quantity. The truth is, friends will come and go. People from your past won’t always make it to your future, and that’s OKAY. I learned that friendship isn’t tied to who you party with or drink with. Friendship stems from so much more than that. I have friends who are like family. Some aren’t my age, but that’s the amazing thing. They don’t have to be.
  9. How to create my own opportunities: College has taught me that life doesn’t hand you anything. Jobs don’t fall on your lap, dreams just don’t happen. You have to work for things, you have to make things happen. Reach out, talk to people, connect & network, just do it!
  10. Live life with no regrets: Finally, I have learned that living with regrets is plain silly. We all have things that we wish we could change or that we wish we did differently, but why carry around that heaviness? If you’re living with regret, I give you permission to let them go. Imagine yourself holding your regrets like balloons in your hand. One by one, release them into the air.


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A Letter to My Mentors

May 7, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

With graduation quickly approaching it really got me thinking about these last four years and how I’ve been surrounded with an amazing support system. My college journey has been different, enjoyable, and at times, difficult. From changing majors to finally finding my happy ending, I have been blessed to have people in my life who always encouraged me, loved me, and never gave up on me! This post is dedicated to them :)


Mom & Dad: Throughout my life you have been my rocks, my source of strength, & my heroes. Everything I am and everything I aspire to be, I owe to you. I’m so thankful for the unconditional love and support you both have shown me – from reading & sharing these blogs, to being my number one fans during my time on The Tangerine & WPNR, to simply believing in me & my dreams. You two never fail to guide me in the right direction and I know you will always be there pushing me toward success and happiness.  A girl couldn’t ask for two better parents. Thank you for always being my biggest fans. I love you both.


To my grandparents: I am so fortunate to have you all in my life. My relationship with each one of you is so unique, so different & I wouldn’t change a single thing. All of the memories we share are priceless and I hold each one of them near and dear to my heart. Thank you for being my role models, thank you for being my cheerleaders, my best teachers, and thank you for believing in me always. Your words of wisdom is something I cherish and I have learned so much from all of you. I love you all.

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To my aunts & special friends: All of you have played a large role in my college career. You all are so different, but you have all inspired me and continue to do so. Each of you have changed my life, my perspective, my attitude, and have taught me lessons that will last a lifetime. I appreciate you all being there for me, making me laugh, and for giving me helpful advice in these last four years. It’s because of your encouragement and support that I am where I am today. 

Spring Clean Your Life! Here’s the Secret:

Apr 9, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

I love Spring time up here in CNY.  Yes, I know that we’re STILL trying to kick Old Man Winter to the curb, but eventually that will take care of itself!

Spring is by far my favorite season. I love to watch the trees bud and flowers bloom. I love to hear the beautiful birds happily chirping and singing in the morning light. (I know what you’re thinking, it’s like a scene straight out of a Disney movie.) It’s a season of new life, rebirth, hope and restoration.

One of my favorite things to do during this time is spring clean. No, I don’t mean walking around my house carrying a dust mop and a vacuum (although necessary, it certainly IS NOT fun!)  I’m talking about the concept of spring cleaning my life. 

What do I mean? Well, as I’ve mentioned above, I look at Spring as a season of growth. After being stuck in the same mindset all winter, I’m ready for some change!

created by me

created by me

So….how can you begin to spring clean your life? The secret is simple: LET GO.

Imagine that you’re holding onto a million balloons. Each balloon represents every emotion you feel, every problem you faced or any regrets you may have. Eventually, they become too heavy to keep carrying around. So, here’s the thing: let them go. Release them. Take all the garbage from the cold, dark, stagnant winter and throw it away.

  • Spring Clean every little thing that has been weighing you down.
  • Spring Clean the hurts and disappointments.
  • Spring Clean past mistakes or regrets.
  • Spring Clean negativity and expectations.
  • Spring clean the toxic people in your life.

Sounds easy right? Sounds like a simple concept….but, it’s not. It takes a lot of strength and determination to not fall back into old habits! But, you’ll get there.

Spring is a season of new hopes, dreams, goals and life. So don’t cling to the person you were in yesterday, last week, last month, or even last year. Shed old mindsets. Dump old habits. Make way for a new beginning, and allow yourself to gently grow.

Things Nobody Tells You About Your Senior Year

Mar 17, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

My senior year of college has been my most exciting, yet nerve-wracking experience of my life. Suddenly, everything is on the fast track. From finding internships, creating proper resumes and cover letters, making a perfect media kit, juggling two – soon to be three – blog pages and planning for graduation – whew! I became tired just typing that sentence.


Here’s the thing: nobody tells you what your senior year of college will really be like. No matter what major you are, us seniors are all in the same boat. Sure, we stress out no matter what year we’re in. However; there’s something about our last year that gives us the willies….am I right?! So, without further ado, here are the top things that no one tells you about your senior year of college:

  • Real life is coming……and fast! This has weighed so much on my mind since beginning the year. Yes, you are prepared each year for the “real world”, but it doesn’t exactly hit you until your last year. There’s no classes to register for, no familiarity at all. “OMG, you’re supposed to work! You have to find a steady job! Here comes those student loan payments!” are the types of thoughts that enter your mind. It’s surreal to think that at one moment you’re working your butt off for an A, the next, you’re working your butt of for a paycheck. Oy vey!
  • The time for trial & error is over: There’s something very earth shattering when you realize that this is your last chance to make everything right. Gone are the days of dropping classes, postponing classes, skipping an assignment, etc. We know that a simple mistake can push-off graduation and we absolutely cannot let that happen.
  • Life will become a balancing act: Somewhere around spring break, we become like professional jugglers. Between our classes, assignments, work, social life, questions from family, planning for graduation, planning for life after graduation we begin to be pulled in 10,000 different directions. Inevitably, we begin to board the emotional roller coaster called “the future.”
  • You’ll feel lost: You’ll start to second guess yourself. You’ll start to wonder if the career path you’ve chosen is the right one. “Will I be able to find a job?” “Where will I find a job?” “Where should I go to find a job?” and more….oh goodness!
  • It’ll all be OKAY: Just breathe, take a deep breath and realize that everything will work out the way it needs to be. Life is funny like that. We stress, we worry, we obsess over everything, but you know what? Everyone feels that way. Just calm down and roll with the changes. That’s what our 20s are all about anyway!

10 Things I Would Tell My Freshman Self

Mar 16, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva
My young, naive freshman self. 2011

My young, naive freshman self. 2011

With graduation fast approaching, it made me reflect on the last four years of my journey through college. My first year was a complete mess. I switched majors twice, had no idea what I wanted to do, and experienced some all too familiar high school drama. Oy! I so did not plan on starting my college life off like that. But, like most things, God had a plan and several lessons in store for me to learn. By my third year, I was FINALLY settled. After changing majors three times, I found my place and have never been happier.

The freshman ‘me’ was so worried about trivial things instead of focusing on what was important. I’ve changed tremendously over the last four years and sometimes, I would love to go back and have a talk with the younger, more naive me. It made me think of everything I would say to the past Allison.

  1. This isn’t high school – let your guard down a little and be open to new possibilities and opportunities.
  2. Stop playing it safe. Step out of your comfort zone and try things that you never thought you would. You’ll end up loving it more than you think.
  3. Focus on what makes you HAPPY, not what will make you money. Money is obviously a necessity to live, but never ever compromise your happiness for the glory of the almighty dollar.
  4. Learn to study. You never had to truly study before and now is the best time to get organized and do it. Find a study method, reevaluate if needed, and commit to it.
  5. Know your professors. Majority of them really want to see you and help you succeed. Don’t be nervous – if you have a problem, ask them. 
  6. Contribute to discussions. If you have something to say – say it. Live fearlessly and boldly. Don’t be afraid to speak up because there are no “bad answers.” Just talk.
  7. Rent your books on Amazon, or anyplace else, but the bookstore. For the love of God rent your books from ANYWHERE ELSE. Nuff said. 
  8. You’re not going to die from public speaking or presenting. Mostly everyone is nervous to do that. Choose confidence over nervousness. You’ll realize that you’re really not so bad at public speaking at all!
  9. Run your own race. Seriously, stop comparing yourself to anyone else. Nobody can do a better job at being you, than YOU!
  10. Have fun, enjoy the bumps, twists and turns. It goes by so fast. 

Spring Farm CARES 3rd Annual Run & Walk For The Animals!

Mar 9, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

Alright folks, the time has come once again to blog about an event that is so near and dear to my heart, The 3rd annual Spring Farm CARES Run and Walk for the animals!

Anyone who knows me, knows my love for animals. Every project I do, every paper I write, and every organization I research are somehow all animal related. I am a huge advocate and often volunteer at the local shelters in the area.

*Side note: I’m working closely with Angels of Fur K-9 Rescue in Rome, NY – an organization dedicated to adopting, rescuing and fostering our canine friends – to establish a blogging website to help spread awareness about adoption and Angels of Fur itself. This is my love.*

Anyway, one of my favorite places to volunteer at is Spring Farm CARES located in Clinton, NY. Spring Farm CARES is a non-kill animal sanctuary fully committed to saving the lives of animals. For more in-depth information about Spring Farm CARES feel free to check out their website here or take a peek at my previous blogs about this organization Running and Walking for our Furry Friends and Spring Farm CARES Run/Walk Reminder


Thanks to my friends at SFC for the picture!

This 5k run and 1 mile walk is a charitable event to benefit SFC which is currently home to over 250 animals. This year, the event takes place on Saturday, May 2 in the Village of Clinton, NY from 8:00 a.m. – 11:00 a.m. Registration is NOW OPEN & the cost for the run or walk is only $20 until March 30. After that the price increases to $22 until the race day. (Not bad at all!)

How this works is quite simple: Runners will line up at 7:45 a.m. and start the run promptly at 8:00 a.m. Walkers will line up at 8:00 a.m. then begin their part at 8:15 a.m. Once the run/walk is completed, participants can enjoy themselves by feasting on delicious food, listening to some rockin’ music which includes live bands, visit various vendors, and of course, my favorite, see all of the adoptable animals!

Can’t participate in the event, but still want to contribute? Here’s how:

  • DONATIONS: Since Spring Farm CARES is a non-profit organization, they rely heavily on donations. Any amount is appreciated and is always put to good use to benefit the animals! I have seen firsthand how well each and every single one of those animals are loved and cared for.
  • SPONSORSHIP: While Spring Farm CARES hosts many adoptions, they also house many permanent residents. Some of the precious animals that have been brought to there need special attention and care. Unfortunately, due to those conditions, those animals are not able to be adopted. YOU CAN still make a difference! Last Christmas, my parents and I sponsored an adorable cat, Moxie, who had many medical issues. That was one of the best things we could have done for that sweetie. We would frequently receive updates on her, pictures of her, and newsletters regarding her and the rest of the special needs animals.

Please consider participating in this extremely enjoyable event. If you can’t, then please consider donating or sponsoring an animal. Any amount is accepted and appreciated. Even the littlest things can make a big difference. Here are some of the animals that you’d be helping:

Red Barron. A 13 year old Cocker Spaniel who is just a sweet, little teddy bear. I've spent numerous time with him and he has completely captivated my heart.

Red Barron. A 13-year-old Cocker Spaniel who is just a sweet, little teddy bear. I’ve spent numerous time with him and he has completely captivated my heart.

My sweet Moxie girl. She's blind and is filled with medical issues, but she is a total love.

My sweet Moxie girl. She’s blind and is filled with medical issues, but she is a total love.

Sweet little Tommy the cat. Thanks to SFC for the photo.

Sweet little Tommy the cat. Thanks to SFC for the photo.

The miracle dog, Charlie Brown. His story is so touching and almost too incredible for words. He is a Cocker Spaniel who was rescued and found unable to walk. Due to acupuncture, water therapy and extensive medical care, Charlie Brown is able to walk. Thanks to SFC for the photo.

The miracle dog, Charlie Brown. His story is so touching and almost too incredible for words. He is a Cocker Spaniel who was rescued and found unable to walk. Due to acupuncture, water therapy and extensive medical care, Charlie Brown is able to walk. Thanks to SFC for the photo.

To see more animals that you can help, visit their sponsor page on their website. For frequent updates on the permanent residents and adoptable animals, “like” Spring Farm CARES on Facebook. Finally, to register for this precious event, click here!


International Women’s Day

Mar 9, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva

Every year, around the world on March 8, all women come together and celebrate what it means to be a woman. They are united as one to honor their successes and achievements. International Women’s Day represents an opportunity to show appreciation to the most important female influences in their lives while calling for greater equality.

Each year there is one specific theme that trends all over social media. Last year, the theme was titled (and hash-tagged) #IAmBeautiful – promoting self-love and embracing the glorious beauty that lies within us. This year, the theme is #MakeItHappen – encouraging women to take action and follow their dreams.

In a world that has always stereotyped men as the providers and women as the housewives, women of our generation are taking the world by storm to prove that the times have changed and that women can be as powerful and successful as men.

Personally, I love the Make It Happen campaign. As a young and upcoming career woman entering the public relations field, this has totally been a motivating idea for me. I have TONS of big dreams that I will make happen someday. No woman should be afraid of accomplishing their dreams or following their heart. No woman should have to be discouraged by society because she wears a skirt and high heels. She can muddle through anything with her head held high.

Today….I want to give a shout out to other women out there who are not afraid to make it happen, who are not afraid to let her voice be heard, and who believes that she can accomplish anything.

I also want to take a moment to honor these incredible women in my life.


These six women have taught me a lot throughout my life. They are strong. They are fearless. They are not afraid to speak their mind, or do what they believe is right. They are honest. They are independent. They are kind. They are positive. These ladies have made a phenomenal difference in my life and as I continue to grow and mature, I can only hope to be half the woman that they are.

So, to all my soul sisters out there, happy women’s day! Take some time to show appreciation to those lovely ladies who inspire you!

Colleges Against Cancer at Utica College: Relay For Life!

Mar 8, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva


Just the mere mention of that word sends shivers up and down my spine. Every day millions of people are affected by this horrendous disease. Children, teenagers, adults, families…..sadly, no one is exempt.

In the past 12 years, my family has gone through the loss of three awe-inspiring, heroic people. I lost my uncle and both of my grandfathers due to various forms of cancer and it has completely broken my heart. Each of these men have made incredible impacts on my life and I carry them with me every single day.

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This year, I was so excited to find out that the school approved a new organization: Colleges Against Cancer at Utica College. 

Colleges Against Cancer is a nationwide community of college students, faculty and staff who are dedicated to finding ways to eliminate cancer through programs and keeping the mission of the American Cancer Society.

CAC has hundreds of chapters all over the country and has made a tremendous impact on young people. Perhaps my favorite part of this organization is the fact that our generation is showing the world that WE care and that WE want to make a difference in raising awareness against all forms of this disease.

The most popular event created by the American Cancer Society is the Relay For Life walk. At these events, communities come together as one to honor every battle won, remember each battle lost, and to support those who are still fighting. The common goal is to raise money to help find a cure and to promote ways to reduce your cancer risk.

Relay For Life teams spend the overnight hours taking turns walking or running around a track or path at a local high school, college, etc. Throughout the night there are several ceremonies to join in on as well as several fun and exciting activities for the teams and participants. For more information on what to expect at a Relay event, click here!

From April 17-18, from 6:00 p.m. to 6:00 a.m. UC will host its first Relay For Life event right on campus. So far, there are 23 teams and 85 participants who raised a total of $5,755. To keep up to date with the latest information on this event, consider liking the official “Colleges Against Cancer at Utica College” page on Facebook, or follow the organization on Twitter (@UC_CAC)

Please consider participating or donating to this wonderful cause. If you can’t attend the event, but would like to contribute, you can do so by clicking here. You will immediately see a sign up and donate button.

We all know someone who has been affected by cancer. There are truly no words to describe what losing a family member to that disease feels like. It’s heartbreaking, and it’s something no one should have to endure. A simple donation can truly make a difference in the fight against cancer and make a significant step in finding a cure.

How to Cope When Your Goals Cause Anxiety

Jan 29, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva


Image: Google

Image: Google

Have you ever had so many goals and dreams that – before you know it – end up overwhelming you? You’re planning, you’re searching, you’re doing everything you can to ensure that you reach success, then it all crashes down on you? Yes? Well, then this post is for you!

Often times we are so focused on the future that we totally miss the opportunities of the present! We’re overcome with the stress of building the life we want instead of enjoying the life we have now.

Whenever I talk to people about my future career plans and ambitions, or whenever people talk to me about theirs, I notice that we all have one thing in common. Beneath our confident smiles and strong intelligence, we’re completely terrified. Think about it – whether we’re at the beginning, middle, or end of our college education, we’re all in the same boat.

In a few short years we will find ourselves lacing up our running shoes and stilettos, and being thrown into the world of adulthood. How do we handle that? How can we learn to take things one at a time and NOT eat an elephant in one bite? Here’s a few helpful hints:

1) Run at Your Own Pace

Your career path is uniquely yours. There is no time limit for your dreams. It’s not only part of your story, but it’s part of your purpose as well. It took me four times to figure out where I wanted my life to go. Did all those major changes put me behind? A little. Instead of four solid years, it’s taking me four and a half years to obtain my degree, but I refused to settle for a career that was going to make me unhappy for the rest of my life. Did it bother me to know that majority of my friends would be completely finished in May? Yes. But, eventually when I stopped focusing on the journey of my peers, I could focus on figuring out what would make me truly happy, and now, I’m living it.

2) Embrace the Uncertainty

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” – Rainer Maria Rilke

I’m a HUGE fan of this quote. Actually, I’m a huge fan of any inspirational quotes. There’s just something so beautiful about the words of others that really, can make a difference in your life. Here’s the point of this message: embrace the unknown! Often times it’s the fear of the unknown that causes our anxiety, but imagine for a moment, if we had all the answers to life? While it might be helpful, that would make life awfully boring. We find out who we are during the most uncertain, rocky times in our lives.

3) Remember: YOU are Writing Your OWN Story

What are our fears and anxieties telling us? Are they telling us that we’re not good enough? Not smart enough? Not strong enough? Are they telling us that we need to do more and be more? If so, that’s false thinking. Much like the first point, we need to realize that WE are the author’s of our own lives. WE hold the pen. Nobody else does. We can be who we want to be, feel how we want to feel, all without competing with others. People need the skills that we have now. Focus on them. Accept fully who and where you are at this moment.

4) Find Your Inspiration

Everybody needs inspiration and the beautiful thing is that we all have the opportunities to find it.  Our inspiration could come from a book, a friend, a relative….anything. Find it, keep it, and go to it when you need a lift. You’ll be surprised at how your anxieties will quickly fade.

5) Find a Happy Spot

We all have our happy spots. You know, places that we love to go relax and unwind from a long and tiring day? For me, that place happens to be cuddled up at home with my dog on my lap and music in my ears (or a book in my hand). We all need places to go to escape from life a little bit. I find that when I take the time each day to just sit, find my peace, and do something that I love, I’m much less overwhelmed!

Remember: We can achieve whatever we want, whenever we want. The key is to not let your ambitions take control over you.

14 Things to Give Up in 2015

Jan 16, 2015 | Author: Allison Acquaviva
Image credit: Google

Image credit: Google

Hopefully 2015 has been treating everyone well so far! I can’t believe we are halfway through this month already! (and not to mention – the Spring semester starts exactly a week from today. Um, WHAT?!) 

So, if you’re like me, you probably are swamped with ideas, goals and resolutions for how you want this year to go. From personal experience, I have discovered that I can be my own worst enemy. That goes for any of us, really.

We stand in our own ways of achieving our dreams and ambitious. We all put limitations on ourselves that prevent us from obtaining what we want. Our ultimate goal should not be to strive for perfection, but rather to embrace our imperfections and adjust to them.

I thought of 14 things that I know I would love to give up this year and that might be beneficial to everyone in order to achieve the success they want! (Especially to start the Spring semester with a bang!)

  1. Self-doubt: The biggest obstacle we face is in our own thinking. Let go of the negative thoughts; turn I can’t into I CAN. How can you achieve what you want when you’re hanging on to the biggest dream killer of all?
  2. Comfort Zones: Nothing great was ever completed by staying inside of a comfort zone. Yes, we get so accustomed and attuned to our habits that it just becomes familiar and increasingly difficult to move out of. Do you want to change your life this year? You’re sure not going to change a thing by playing small. Get out there and show the world who YOU are.
  3. Self-criticism: This really goes hand in hand with point #1, but really, it’s worth repeating. We are our own harshest critics. We beat ourselves up over every little thing and forget that we are human and do make mistakes! Would you speak to a friend the way you speak to yourself? No. So, we need to stop being a bully to ourselves and learn to embrace every positive aspect that we have to offer.
  4. Comparison: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Theodore Roosevelt. That statement couldn’t be anymore true. We are constantly on the comparison bandwagon. Who is doing this, who is doing that. Why aren’t I like that? Why can’t I be like them? Ugh! Just drop this bad habit now. Like, right now. It really is a waste of time and energy. Everyone is on their own paths to success and everyone runs their own race at their own pace. Your life is uniquely yours – live it and love it!
  5. Guilt: Guilt and regrets over the past are the worst feelings. We often dwell on things that went wrong, that we miss everything else that went right. Did you make a mistake? Forgive yourself and move on. My friend shared a quote with me that said “your best teacher is your last mistake.” Learn and grow from your mistakes. Fix what you can, and shake off what you can’t.
  6. Fake Personas: Think of how beautiful the world would be if everyone was simply themselves? If everyone didn’t worry about pleasing others or putting on a show in order to be liked? Forget all that. I received a beautiful gift this Christmas that says: “In a world where you can be anything, be yourself.” It proudly is displayed in my room as a constant reminder to me to be my most authentic self.
  7. Apologies: Apologies are really only useful if you have done something wrong to someone or hurt someone. I’m talking about apologizing for being yourself. If you like something, don’t be afraid to like it. Do you want to join that club? Take that art class? Do it and don’t be sorry just because someone else doesn’t like it.
  8. Excuses: This is a biggie. I can’t tell you how many times a day I’ve told myself “I don’t have time.” “I can’t do this because…” Where does that get me? Nowhere. Be open to new experiences, make time for the things that are important to you. Yes, we all have limitations. But, instead of letting them define us, we should let them push us to be our very best.
  9. Procrastination: Procrastinators unite! Tomorrow. Seriously, if anyone is a pro at procrastinating, it’s me – and I KNOW I’m not alone. Really, procrastinating is useless. All it does is stress me out. Want to make 2015 the year of you? Start now. Don’t wait. Don’t put off anything that you want to (or have to) do.
  10. Social Media: I’m not talking about quitting cold turkey, but consider spending less time behind your phone or computer screen. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc., are not real life. Instead, they often cause us the most problems – especially in the comparison department. Do you really need to post that status about your day at the gym? Do you have to hashtag every word you tweet? Do you have to post that picture of your dinner – hoping you’ll get more than 5 likes? NO. Stop, take a digital detox. It’ll be good for your soul!
  11. Competing: Much like comparison, competing with others gets you nowhere. Win at your own life!
  12. Busyness: In today’s world, you’re not normal unless you have 10 million things to do at one time. Everybody is in such a rush. Imagine how great it would be if people stopped and took a deep breath once in a while? Find something that makes you relax. Read a book, take a walk, sing, do anything that makes you happy and give yourself a break!
  13. Multitasking: This is something that usually people say to describe themselves. “I’m great at multitasking!” While this is not a bad character trait, it’s not good to always be multitasking. Focus your time and attention on one thing at a time. By doing two, three, 10 or 15 things at once will not lead to accomplishment, but rather – confusion. One step at a time, one thing at a time.
  14. Anxiety: With the new semester just around the corner, it’s only natural to get nervous. Thinking about what the semester will bring can be stressful. But, just like living in the past, living in the future doesn’t do anyone any good. Worrying about things you can’t control, or events that are outside of your circle of influence is not good for your mind or body. Take a breather. Find your inner peace. Gain your confidence. Know that you can and will be able to handle anything that comes your way.